I am doing a presentation on August 24th at the Westin Bayshore Hotel, Vancouver for HRAI.
The theme of the program is Creating Your Legacy by using Your Power of Influence.
Too often we try to force people to not only do things we want them to do but to force them to do them the way we want them done. We don't take enough time to look at it from their perspective.
Probably the easiest example is watching a parent with a young child. Most of us have been there or are there.
There is huge time pressures on parents of young children. That and the lack of sleep often have them shouting at their children.
- Just do it!
- Because I said so
- I brought you into this world and I will take you out.
- Be quiet.
- Stop asking questions
- If I've told you once I've told you a thousand times...........
- Don't exaggerate
We don't do this because of a lack of love for our kids but because of the pressures we constantly face.The downside is that we are stifling their creativity and their ability to create their legacy.
How are they going to have initiative if we constantly use our authority to knock it out of them? You know the teachers are going to do the same to them in school because of their lack of resources.
In order to give our children the best opportunities to become creative adults we need to treat them with more respect and patience. I know it is not easy; but good parenting never is, but it is immensely rewarding.
Take this lesson into your day job also and start listening to others. Don't let the time pressures and stresses win. They are only short term victories. Help others to be successful.
Long term victories, like legacies are earned through using your Power of Influence; not your power of authority.
We only have our children for a short time. They use their Power of influence. Infants only have their crying voice to influence us to do what they want. We have a much greater range of communications skills. Use yours wisely to create your legacy.
Your legacy is your kids. Now is the time to start influencing them so that they are a legacy of which you can be proud. Your legacy is all the people you can influence. Be aware of that and start creating your legacy now.
Without Action there is No Change.